1. Know that everything is happening “For you” not “To you.”  Let go of the victim mindset and know that even in this situation something good is happening.


  1. “Accept” what is happening in the moment, even though you’d like it to be different. Acceptance… not “fighting against” the illness brings peace, peace helps the body work better.  Acceptance doesn’t mean you are not working for change.


  1. Take time every day for a meditation practice.
    1. Learn to relax the body through breathing. The body heals when the body is relaxed.  Everything works better in a relaxed body. 
    2. Learn to relax and quiet the mind. This takes practice and a process.


  1. Make time for things and people you love. Re-order your values and where your time is spent.


  1. Forgive everyone and everything in your past.


  1. Visualize a healed body and what you will be doing when you feel better.


  1. Monitor your self-talk. Think positive thoughts of healing and what you’ll be doing when you’re well.  Create thoughts of self-love and self-admiration.


  1. When fear and anxiety hits you, sit it out, breathe through it, and remember it’s not what is happening now- “In this moment everything is OK.” As the fear subsides, start to put your attention on the good that is happening and affirm your health.


  1. Surround yourself in a positive, supporting healing environment.


  1. This is a call for self love.  Love yourself whole.

How is Your Emotional Intelligence?

In an article I read recently, top human resources officers from global companies were asked what they see as the top ten job skills required by the year 2020 for workers to thrive.

One of those critical skills for success that made the top 10 list?

Wait for it … Emotional Intelligence.


According to Emotional Intelligence experts, E.I. has become an important predictor of job success, surpassing technical ability and intelligence in general.

What is emotional intelligence?

It’s about being smarter with feelings.  Its about being more self-aware, more intentional, more purposeful, more empathetic.

In a nutshell, your emotional intelligence is your ability to be more responsive than reactive; more skilled in your inner world and in your ability to be with others.  The higher your emotional intelligence, the more options and choices you really have in life.

One who has a high emotional intelligence has self awareness, can self regulate and manage their emotions, they take personal responsibility for what is triggering their emotions, they have the ability to boost their own inner motivation, have innate empathy and compassion for others and can sense what they are feeling.  They have the ability to “put themselves in the shoes of another.”  They have the social skills of being able to develop trust and rapport with others and develop self confidence.


Your relationships, work partners and family will appreciate it- and

You will be happier.

Emotional intelligence is what happens as a result of personal and spiritual growth. True growth is the developing of the inner world.  Meditation, mindfulness, emotional awareness and spiritual awareness are all the things that we teach, not only at the Oneness Center but to groups and individuals.


These life skills, such as understanding the mind, how it works, how to use it, and developing the skills to quiet the mind and create space before reacting to triggered events, are the real skills that can make the biggest difference in your quality of life, healthy body, and handling stress.

By learning to live from your higher mind rather than the conditioned responses, you will grow in your own self awareness, creativity, intuition, peacefulness; and you can increase your money, work satisfaction, personal and family happiness.

Science is proving that the benefits of meditation are unmistakable.

And now, even top companies recognize the benefits.  People from all walks of life are seeing the power of meditation, whether its in sports excellence, business success, creative enhancement, physical health, improved memory and sharpness of mind.

So the proof is here.  Jump in!

Is Life Good or What?

Yesterday, as I picked my seven-year-old granddaughter up from school, I asked her my habitual question, “How was your day?”


She rolls her eyes. “Not again!”


I argue. “But I LOVE to hear about anything from your day!”


“It’s the same thing as before. It was GOOD!” she replies. “It’s good every day!”

I want to be her.


It doesn’t matter what happened, who ate lunch with her or didn’t, the teasing boy or what was going on in class (I know there are those days), it’s the same answer, “It’s good every day!”


She teaches me.


How about just remembering that the day is “good,” even if things “go bump in the night?”


Part of this spiritual journey really is about learning to be a conscious participant in life and that our responses, reactions and experience of anything is ultimately our choice.


Be Present to What Is

One of the practices that serves me and others I work with well is the practice of being present to what is.


What does that mean?


Ultimately, knowing that our state of mind is of utmost importance, it becomes more joyful to flow with rather than fight life.


If I can accept this moment as it is without needing it to change for me to be happy and at peace, then I have found the secret elixir. This practice can reveal a life of happiness, no matter what happens.


For example, recently I had a day where one thing after another piled up on me that normally could have been cause for upset and turmoil.


First, a ridiculous hour delay, waiting in a line that should’ve taken five minutes. Then, a cutting and hurtful letter from a loved one, a financial downturn and “bad” news on a project. All in one day.


When the first delay appeared, I breathed into it and thought, “There is nothing I can do about this but wait. I might as well notice the things around me and enjoy “what is.“  Peace ensued.


After slowly reading the painful and cutting remarks of a dear loved one, I felt my heart cringe and my gut kicked. I remembered the line from Matt Kahn, “More love, not less.” I allowed the letter to be there. I recalled that it wasn’t my job to change her or the situation but it was a call for more love, not less, toward myself and my precious one. This is what is happening now. I don’t need it to change. Peace ensued.


As the financial hit surprised me and I went into fear immediately without choice, I soon remembered that this is what’s happening for now. I breathed. I remembered, “This is just a passing condition.” I want peace more than fear. I choose to accept what is happening in order to have peace, and from that peace, new and better solutions can arise. Peace ensued.


Things happen. Life does go “bump in the night,” and I know, all too well, it can be scary. Irritations arise but they are all passing states and experiences and, like the rough waters on the top of a lake on the windy day, the depth of the lake remains undisturbed.


Our ability to accept what is happening is our ability to go into the depths of the lake, the still part, no matter what storms may toss the surface.
All is well, no matter what.


Dr. Janette Freeman is the Founder and Spiritual Director at The Oneness Center OC, author of “The Second Envelope,“ and “Why Did This Happen to Me, Again?”  She teaches regular classes in spiritual development locally and online.  Get your free Visualization Meditation by signing up on her website: