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Do you like to wait?
No one does. Not really. Whether its in a line, traffic or more importantly, waiting for your goals to manifest, your love to show up, or even your children to grow up?
The mind does not know how to wait, in fact it resists it altogether. The western mind/lifestyle has an aversion to waiting. Why? We are goal driven, we are going somewhere, doing something, accomplishing something, and waiting simply means postponement.
It reminds me of the story of Nasruddin from India who had saved up to buy a new shirt. He went to a tailor’s shop, full of excitement. The tailor measured him and said, “Come back in a week, and–if Allah wills–your shirt will be ready.”
The Mullah contained himself for a week and then went back to the shop. “There has been a delay. But–if Allah wills–your shirt will be ready tomorrow.”
The following day Nasruddin returned. “I am sorry,” said the tailor, “but it is not quite finished. Trytomorrow, and–if Allah wills–it will be ready.”
Finally, “How long will it take,” asked the exasperated Nasruddin, “if you leave Allah out of it?”
When I was in India the practice of waiting was a daily occurrence—in fact, they called everything “India time.”
My first experience of this was during registration, which, by the way occurred two days after the conference started. We were sent to a room to sit down (in silence) and wait until our name was called to go register. We sat, over a hundred people in a room which held about 20 chairs, at 9 p.m. at night, waiting for our name to be called. At a snail’s pace, one name after another was called.
The more I sat and experienced this, the more irritated I became. It was taking entirely too long, and at this rate we would be there all night. Most of us were sitting on the hard floor, tired from jet lag, and I could feel the irritation in the room, as well. The longer I sat there, the angrier I became. I could have organized this much better, done the registration sooner, found a way to make it go faster, etc.
But alas, I was not in charge. Pretty soon, left to my own thoughts I began to notice my irritation.I began to watch my thoughts and you know what happens when you begin to watch your thoughts rather than just think them? You become detached from them, and they soon lose their ability to upset you. I watched my irritation, I watched my emotions and soon I began to relax into the present moment exactly as it was. I began to wait. In the conscious waiting, I began to experience the present moment fully as it was, and I began to be at peace. It was a wonderful lesson in the art of waiting.
PATIENCE= TRUST IN DIVINE TIMING AND DIVINE ORDER.
Impatience really is not trusting the Divine timing… not trusting Divine order.
“Hey, is anyone up there? Is anyone listening? God where are you? This should be done by now!” Does any of that sound familiar?
Our practice and experience of patience, or trust puts us in a receptive state of mind… In a receptive and peaceful mind, we ARE IN THE FLOW, where we are aligning with Divine Order. The Divine Order doesn’t inflict itself upon you.
There can be two simultaneous realities happening at any time… upset, anger, frustration and you then can begin to attract one bad thing after another. Or, you can trust the Divine timing, trust that Divine Order is taking place and live in the flow, where synchronocities take place and life unfolds with more ease and grace.
F-L-O-W with LIFE
From the Tao: 15th verse translated by Witter Bynner:
How can a man’s life keep its courseIf he will not let it flow?Those who flow as life flows knowThey need no other force:They feel no wear, they feel no tear,They need no mending, no repair.
F-aith in Divine Order
“Stop chasing your dreams. What is yours will come to you when you aren’t trying to push the river. Get in the flow of life and allow yourself to proceed gently down its stream.” Wayne Dyer’s book on the Tao.
Relaxing into the present moment and trusting that everything in life is proceeding as it should and a delay doesn’t mean anything more than, “its not time yet,” can reveal a life of Faith. The more we relax into knowing that even through the ups and downs of life, Spirit is molding us into the ONE who lives Divine Purpose.
L-ong Term Perspective
One way to develop patience is to develop a perspective that is above, outside of, and far beyond your normal day to day existence. This allows you to view life from an elevated level, less affected by a day to day, short term view of life.
Standing at the sea shore… you’re seeing exact scene some other human saw long before you, maybe hundreds and thousands of years. And maybe a thousand years in the future.
If you take a step back in your mind and observe your life up until now and over the next 20-30-40+ years and realize that whatever you’ve been worried about will be solved and then its easier to trust the moment as its appearing today.
“This too will pass…”
Looking back on my life as single mother for 12 years, I remember in the the middle of it, I thought it would never end… it was full of struggle and strain. Looking back and seeing it as only one little piece of my life, I see the tremendous value in it, the way I grew and they grew.
I can be patient with a long term perspective.
I can trust Divine Timing.
O-pen to the Divine Will for youPatience and trust requires that we stay Open. How do you know that what’s happening is not the perfect thing? Can you surrender and align with the Divine will?
Prayer from “Outrageous Opening by Tosha Silver:
“Let what wants to come, come. Let what wants to go go. If it is mine. It will stay, if not whatever is better will replace it.”
She also said, “Invoke God’s will for you, and you will never fear the movement of the stars again.”
ROSE BUD STORY
A young, new preacher was walking with an older, more seasoned preacher in the garden one day and feeling a bit insecure about what God had for him to do; about how he was to walk this path called ministry. And so he was inquiring of the older preacher. The older preacher walked up to a rosebush and handed the young preacher a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any petals.
The young preacher looked in disbelief at the older preacher and was trying to figure out what a rosebud could possibly have to do with his wanting to know the WILL OF GOD for his life and for his ministry. Because of his high respect for the older preacher, he proceeded to TRY to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact…It wasn’t long before he realized how impossible it was to do so.Noticing the younger preacher’s inability to unfold the rosebud while keeping it intact, the older preacher began to recite the following poem…
UNFOLDING THE ROSE …..
It is only a tiny rosebud, a flower of God’s design; But I cannot unfold the petals- This flower of God’s design, Then how can I think I have the wisdom- To unfold this life of mine?
The secret of unfolding flowers is not known to such as I. GOD opens these flowers so sweetly, When in my hands they fade and die.
If I cannot unfold a rosebud,This flower of God’s design, Then how can I think I have the wisdom to unfold this life of mine?
So I’ll trust in God for guidance Each moment of every day.I will look to God for wisdom Each step of the rocky way. The pathway that lies before me, Only Divine Spirit knows.So I’ll trust God to unfold the moments, Just as God unfolds the rose.
W-illing to wait.
Imagine you are climbing the mountain. The summit represents a experience of complete Oneness with God, or total enlightenment. Through human effort you climb to a high meadow. It is a beautiful place. You can see things you have never seen before. You think you have arrived at your goal, but eventually you realize this is not the summit. The peak is shrouded in mist. You cannot even see the trailhead which leads to the experience you desire. At the high meadow, you must wait. No amount of human effort will take you higher. However, a woman is coming to show you the trailhead and to lead you higher. Her name is GRACE. Through waiting and God’s Grace, you are taken into the mist, into the mystery that is the Presence.
In this analogy, we climb to the High Meadow through the efforts we make in our spiritual growth. Our affirmations, meditations and transformations. During our climb to the High Meadow, this effort has been like a lifting wind taking us to a high state of HUMAN consciousness which feels good. We are in a positive state of being, but we have not yet experienced true and lasting oneness with Spirit. From here we can descend into the valley of negativity, or we can WAIT for Grace to come and take us higher. The soul that waits, walks with God. Grace comes in her timing, and takes us to the summit- pure oneness with God.
Grace cannot be rushed, grace cannot be forced, grace is the gift that is given, in its own right way, in its perfect Divine moment.
FROM THE BOOK, “A Closer Walk with Thee” by Jim Rosemergy, Unity Minister:
“Teach us to wait. The practice of prayer is primarily the art of waiting.”“We do not achieve a closer walk with God. We can achieve many things in life, but an experience of the Presence does not come through our efforts. God cannot be scaled as we climb a mountain.” (or we will develop spiritual egotism… “I did this… I got close to God… oh I am so spiritual.”) “Discipline and persistence are developed in the seeker and skills are learned, but WAITING is the primary skill to be mastered. It is like the rising of the sun. We may beg and beseech, burn incense, and practice rituals, but these human efforts do not make the sun rise. Basically, we must sit in the dark, face the east, and wait. This assures us we will witness the sunrise, but it does not lift the velvet canopy of the night.”
“…But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31)
Practicing Patience allows us to live in the FLOW!
Long term perspective
Open to the Will of the Divine
Willing to Wait.
OK, I can learn to wait!
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