The Power of your Enlightened NO!

There’s this OTHER THING about your brain you must know, so that you are working more intelligently with your mind to move you in the direction of your real desires.  Last week I told you how your brain likes what’s familiar- and encouraged you to make the desires which may be unfamiliar much more familiar. (If you missed it, listen to recording of last week’s show.)


Did you also know that your brain is hardwired to move you toward pleasure and away from pain?  That’s right. It’s what keeps the species alive.


That is why you should trick the mind to believe that it is SO PLEASURABLE to do what you know you need to do, and painful to keep old destructive habits.


For example, if you complain and don’t like something that you know you need to do (like going to the gym) you will find ways not to do it.  Your brain won’t let you keep doing something you don’t like. There’s not enough discipline in the world for that long term.   You have to LINK what you want with pleasure such as: “I love going to the gym, I love eating right, I love to meditate and feel relaxed, I just love being in love, I love being in a committed relationship, I just love going to work and being productive, I love making money!”  Link pleasure in your mind with what you want to keep or attract into your life, your YES’s.


Then, link pain to doing what you shouldn’t be doing or what you don’t want in your life.  Link discomfort to what you truly want to say NO to.


For example, let’s say you don’t want to keep eating sugary desserts.  When you eat them you normally think, “Oohh I love this, I shouldn’t do it, but it tastes SO GOOD!”  You’ve linked pleasure to it and you’re going to keep doing it.  What if, you really wanted to stop that sugar addiction?  You would need to link more pain than pleasure to it.  Think instead, “I don’t like the way I feel, this tastes terrible, it’s too sweet, it feels horrible after I eat this, yuk,” etc.  OK- lie to yourself until you believe it.  Link pain to what you want to say “NO” to.


Understand how the brain works and work with it.  Learn to trick it and direct your mind to take you in the direction you know will bring lasting happiness, health and success.


Be enlightened and say “NO” to what doesn’t serve your genius.

Say “YES” to what does, because it FEELS SO GOOD.  More please.


Clear instructions to yourself will bring you in the direction that you consciously want to go.  Yes!  I love that!  I love and get so much joy and pleasure giving myself clear direction.


Say YES to Big, unlimited love!  It feels so good!!!

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“Soul Soup,” to provide food for your soul and warmth for your heart. Each Sunday at 9:00 am, PST from the comfort of your home, tune in for a short inspirational message with a HYPNO-PROCESS (subconscious process of transformation.)

Experience real shift in a short time. So sit down, create your quiet “me space,” and allow yourself to breathe and focus and we’ll take care of the rest- and you can get the soul-stirring refreshment your body, mind and spirit has been yearning for.

There’s this ONE THING about your brain, you must know!

There’s this ONE THING about your brain you must know, so that you are working with what you got- to get you what you want!
Your brain likes what’s familiar.
That’s right.  You walk into a room or place and instantly- before you even realize it, your brain has scanned the room looking for what is familiar.
Imagine going to a party as a single person.  Instantly your brain is scanning the room for what is familiar.  It sees far more than you are conscious of.  Before you know it you are making new friends.  What kind of people did you “see?”  Who did you ‘zero’ in on?  The kind of people you are used to being with.
Now, that’s great if you always attract loving, kind, so available people that are really there for you.  Your mind just keeps zeroing in on them.  If you tend to attract unavailable, not so nice people, well your mind just keeps zeroing in on them. (Hey, I didn’t make the rules!)
What about business?  Do you always make great investments and make powerful choices?  If so, unconsciously your brain will zero in on that for you in the future, because it sees what is familiar.
NOW… you know this is coming… what if what is familiar is something you DON’T want to keep attracting and you want to start attracting what has, in the past, been unfamiliar?
You guessed it.  You simply have to make the unfamiliar, familiar. 
That starts in the only place it really can- in your own mind.  You must make the unfamiliar, so familiar in your own brain, which, by the way, doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined.  That will then begin to inform your decisions and actions.
On Sunday’s Soul Soup (Online Service) we’re going to give you a Super Soul Success Mantra to start to make the unfamiliar even more familiar.  That is, IF you want to expand your Soul’s greatest expression of love, success and abundance and move through unconscious blocks and make your BIG LEAP!

The Inside-Out Approach to Solving Anything

Have you ever had a problem, a quandry, or a need that seems to be just out of reach?
Do you run it over and over in your head?
Is that working?  Does it help?
Today, I want to suggest that whatever the need…
The answer always lies in accessing a higher state of mind, as the problem is never solved at the level of mind that created it.  I think Einstein said something like that – and I think its pretty good.
Today, think of a problem you would like to solve- and let’s go higher, deeper and wider than the problem itself.  In other words, higher in spiritual intelligence, deeper in presence and wider in expansive thought.
Five Internal Practices for Solving Anything
1.  Practice the Present Moment– When our mind is running rampant its time to STOP.  When there is an issue at hand our mind locks onto it and turns it over and over- usually getting nowhere fast.  We are operating at a level where we are only able to access memory- not new, creative possibilities.  Those possibilities are accessed from a relaxed state of mind.  So STOP.  FORGET IT.  Do something to get it off your mind.
I suggest really trying to access the present moment.  Look around, breathe, be in the moment.   Use your body’s senses to bring your present.  See.  Smell.  Taste.  Feel.  Listen.  Breathe, and notice your breath.  Get in nature and actually see it, smell it, listen to the sounds you hear.
Our egoic thinking mind really thinks it can think itself into the solution, and yes, of course it can.  And- the solution will come out of its memory and thus, possibly make the same mistakes!  But that part of you that is accessed in the present moment is your Superconscious mind, your Authentic Self, the Divine inspiration.  No matter what you call it- its a way better way to get NEW information!  It has the answers, your mind does not.
2.  Practice the Principles –  There are principles in the universe which tell us that what we ‘put out there’ comes back to us.  Realizing that and applying it in this situation tells us that we need to work on ourself first, before trying to move the pieces of our life around.  Come back to a higher internal faith through practices that bring positive states of mind and emotions that move us toward our goals.  Who would you be without that problem, or if it was solved?  How would you feel?  Can you begin to feel that way now?
Practicing the principles means to remember that there is order in the universe and it can’t give you what you first don’t embody within.  You can’t hate life and expect life to give to you roses and candy.  You can love life and expect life to give you everything you need.  You must live in love and kindness if you want that back.  You can’t sit around in thoughts of fear, worry and anxiety and expect anything back except that which those thoughts create.  2 plus 2 equals 4.  Love plus love equals more love.  Fear plus fear equals more fear.  Its pretty simple really.  Watch your energy and uplevel it to what you want to experience.
3.  Practice Purification – Life is an ongoing purification process- a letting go, a releasing, a clearing.  Our bodies do it daily and our emotional and mental world needs it too.  Can you forgive, let go, communicate what needs to be communicated and move on?
All challenges in life present an opportunity to let something go. For example, when up against a family challenge, I had to first go back to me.  Where in me had I been holding on to blame and unforgiveness?  Surrender, let go, give it up.  I didn’t need it.  My ego could let it go and make room for my authentic self to rise to the surface.  Then the challenge worked out.
4.  Practice Praise – Gratitude is the greatest power.  Gratitude and praise turns our attention from what is not working to what is, and it generates a higher, more expansive vibration that aligns us with our goals.
Again, another tool to raise vibration.  All of these practices are simply that- raise the vibration higher than the problem.  Using gratitude as a vibe raiser is the simplest and most straightforward way to elevate energy.  I AM so grateful!!!
“I am so grateful for the solutions that have shown up so easily and I am so grateful that it all happened so perfectly.  Life works and everytime I go through challenges, I have been shown how perfectly things always work out.  I am so grateful to know this.”
5.  Practice Patience –  Let it all go.  Relax.  Set it in the hands of the Divine Grace and allow everything to move at its own time.  Let go of control and be patient.  Patience sets up the vibration that its already done.    RELAX, LET GO, ALL IS WELL.
I know as we practice these 5 steps we can be in alignment- with not only the solution but the ongoing and ever expansive lives that we are meant to live!
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” – Albert Einstein

How is Your Emotional Intelligence?

In an article I read recently, top human resources officers from global companies were asked what they see as the top ten job skills required by the year 2020 for workers to thrive.

One of those critical skills for success that made the top 10 list?

Wait for it … Emotional Intelligence.


According to Emotional Intelligence experts, E.I. has become an important predictor of job success, surpassing technical ability and intelligence in general.

What is emotional intelligence?

It’s about being smarter with feelings.  Its about being more self-aware, more intentional, more purposeful, more empathetic.

In a nutshell, your emotional intelligence is your ability to be more responsive than reactive; more skilled in your inner world and in your ability to be with others.  The higher your emotional intelligence, the more options and choices you really have in life.

One who has a high emotional intelligence has self awareness, can self regulate and manage their emotions, they take personal responsibility for what is triggering their emotions, they have the ability to boost their own inner motivation, have innate empathy and compassion for others and can sense what they are feeling.  They have the ability to “put themselves in the shoes of another.”  They have the social skills of being able to develop trust and rapport with others and develop self confidence.


Your relationships, work partners and family will appreciate it- and

You will be happier.

Emotional intelligence is what happens as a result of personal and spiritual growth. True growth is the developing of the inner world.  Meditation, mindfulness, emotional awareness and spiritual awareness are all the things that we teach, not only at the Oneness Center but to groups and individuals.


These life skills, such as understanding the mind, how it works, how to use it, and developing the skills to quiet the mind and create space before reacting to triggered events, are the real skills that can make the biggest difference in your quality of life, healthy body, and handling stress.

By learning to live from your higher mind rather than the conditioned responses, you will grow in your own self awareness, creativity, intuition, peacefulness; and you can increase your money, work satisfaction, personal and family happiness.

Science is proving that the benefits of meditation are unmistakable.

And now, even top companies recognize the benefits.  People from all walks of life are seeing the power of meditation, whether its in sports excellence, business success, creative enhancement, physical health, improved memory and sharpness of mind.

So the proof is here.  Jump in!